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Sex, Love and the Male Brain

For the normal, everyday male, looking for the perfect, attractive female with all the right shapes is as natural to them as breathing. It is probably one of the most necessary things in life as well – just to keep the human race alive. The men who have made it today have been biologically selected throughout hundreds of thousands of years because their ancestors were good at focusing on fertile females.

Biology behind a Man

When a man spots a beautiful woman’s face and figure, they automatically go into the drooling mode and come in for a better look. Men have ultimately evolved to focus on certain aspects of a woman that indicate reproductive health. Research has suggested that a woman’s hour glass figure such as large breasts, small waists, full hips, and a flat stomach is actually integrated into men across every culture. This type of shape tells the male brain their prospective mate is healthy, young and normally they are not pregnant by another mate. A man’s detector that they have is usually a visual one. Researchers from the University of California found out that it only takes the male brain 1.5th of a second to classify a woman as sexually attracting or not.

The male brain is actually designed for sexual pursuit and it is on the top of his priority list of things to do. This area of the male brain is 2.5 times larger than in the female brain and the testosterone levels are close to 15 times higher than a woman’s. Research studies done report that men want to have 14 sexual partners in their lifetime, while most women only state that they would be fine with 1 or 2.

The Male Cheating Brain

Why do so many men out there cheat? This is a question that is on a lot of inquiring minds. No one knows the real reason for certain, but there are some clues. Men that have longer vasopressin receptor genes tend to stay with one mate and are married longer than those with short vasopressin receptor genes. It is also proven that married men live close to 2 years longer than single men. This is definitely something for men to look into when it comes time to settle down and get comfy; do they want that extra time on this world?

10 Fun Sex Facts

There are a lot of sex facts out there, but which ones are actually true? They can be facts that you would have not known otherwise, and are shocked to find out the truth! Perhaps you think your guy is packing big, but in all actuality, it is normal? There are so many sex facts out there that you do not know, or think anything different about until you read these truths about sex that might shock you. They are of course, pretty fun to read as well since they teach you things you might not have known about sex, the human body, and some of the weird things that people have done in the past.

  1. Approximately 5 percent of all 40 year old men and 20 percent of 65 year old men experience some sort of erectile dysfunction.
  2. The average erect penis measures five to seven inches long, and four to six inches around.
  3. Varsity athletes have quite a bit more sex. There is a study that proves that being fit and flexible, and giving more versatility in the bedroom is a turn on.
  4. Sex burns 360 calories each time you do it.
  5. The typical person spends around 600 hours having sex when they are between the ages of 20 and 70.
  6. While 75 percent of men always reach the orgasm spot in sex, only 29 percent of women report the same satisfaction. Most women are actually unable to climax through vaginal intercourse, instead of clitoral stimulation.
  7. In previous times, masturbation was thought to lead to madness, blindness, sudden death or many other unpleasant disease and conditions. Research today, however shows no such connection.
  8. Historical records indicate that in 1850, women attempted to use birth control. The most common method and treatment was a mixture of honey and crocodile dung placed in the vagina in hopes to prevent pregnancies.
  9. The penalty for masturbating in Indonesia is death by decapitation.
  10. The vibrator is a common sex toy for a woman, and was originally designed in the 19th century to fight any anxiety related symptoms of hysteria. Women would go to the doctor to relieve these symptoms.

Top 5 First Date Ideas

When you go on a first date, impressions mean everything. You want them to know what type of person they are and that they care about what you think about the entire date and of you. This is why choosing the best first date is crucial. There are a few date ideas mentioned below that will be sure to make a good first impression and super fun for both of you while still allowing you both the time you need to communicate and get to know each other. Doing something enjoyable shows how much you care on whether or not you both enjoy your time together, and that you want to show them how to have a good time all in one.

1. Bowling

This is one that is an oldie, but it is still good and highly regarded in the dating world. Get a little competitive and take them on during a few matches. Make a new game out of it by saying that whoever bowls better on each frame has to give up a fun fact about themselves. This provides hours of fun, while also getting to know them at the same time.

2. Local Music Show

This is a great way to let loose and learn a little more about each other. Not only that, but if you’re both into music then this would be the best place to go. You can buy drinks and some appetizers and really enjoy yourself. They also might have comedy shows going on as well if you’re more interested in that.

3. Aquarium

The aquarium is the best place to get a lot of talk time in. You can make a whole day out of it, and purchase lunch right at the aquarium. This allows you both to get to know each other while doing something peaceful at the same time that you both enjoy.

4. Try a New Cuisine

This goes without saying: good food, great times. If you try something new together, you might find that you enjoy it. This can be something that allows you both to talk and connect, while also trying different things. Make sure to be creative and find out if your date is allergic to anything ahead of time!

5. Pretend to be Tourists

This is exciting since you may not have seen the entire area where you have lived. Bounce from place to place to place like you have never passed or heard about them before. You both can learn more about the town or city and actually have fun doing so together. Make this a whole day project and make sure to stop for lunch.

10 Online Dating Tips

So you want to know some of the best dating tips out there for online dating? Well I have done online dating for a while, and I will share with you some of the dating tips that I have had. This is because you want to know what to do to get noticed and getting noticed is everything when it comes to meeting people on the internet since there are so many to choose from.

1. Determine which type of online service is the best for you and your needs. There are five different types of dating services that you can choose from on the internet. – General Online Dating Services that are aimed at just general dating, Relationship Services that are services that match you with other people depending on your compatibility, Social Network Services that are free websites that you can build a friend platform with, Niche Dating Services that are focused on bringing people together based on a specific common desire or passion, and the last one is Merging Online Dating Services that combine having your own specific website and cards to hand out in the real world.

2. Build one of the best profiles the online world has yet to see. This is probably one of the most important aspects of online dating. When a person sees this part of you, they will then make a decision on whether or not they want to email you. You should put things down about you that make you interesting, and be honest, but not too honest. Leave some things for the imagination.

3. A profile is not complete unless you have great recent pictures to go along with it. The picture is the first thing that grabs attention when searching for someone over the internet. This is because they can see what you look like to see if they have an attraction to you.

4. Learn how to effectively communicate through the internet. The first time you write to someone is important. You want personalize the email to them, and ask them a few questions. You can also throw in a few compliments since they will not hurt the situation. Stay away from being over complimentary however, and don’t include long lists of things about yourself or what you two have in common.

5. Avoid those little white lies. This is because the internet is comprised on many little white lies. Not only can you lie about everything going on in your life, who you are, and what you do but you do not want to become one of the many liars. Be real with the people that you talk with.

6. Follow all of the important online dating safety tips. This is because you want to meet people, but you should do so safely at the same time. Taking all the necessary precautions is always a good thing.

7. Learn how to avoid married or complicated people. This is something that can be easily identified. They will take a long time to reply back to you, and you might have times where they do not answer their phones or such. You want to avoid this at all costs since it will not get you a relationship.

8. Make yourself stand out. This goes without saying that you should make yourself different from the rest. What makes you any different from anyone else out there? You want to make sure that you show them something different about yourself compared to others.

9. Avoid becoming a professional online dater. This is because a lot of people become addicted to online dating. You should still go out and enjoy other things. This is a person on many dating service websites and that go on a lot of dates, and probably hurt a few people in the process.

10. Do not underestimate yourself and your online dating profile. You do not want to down talk yourself, or make yourself seem not worthy of anything. You want to make sure that the profile is one that shows confidence and what you’re all about.

5 Money Relationship Issues and How to Solve Them

There is no denying that money plays a major role in relationships. It is even common for those couples that do not have money to break up because of it. There are 5 top money problems, and ways to solve them below. This might help you get out of the money troubles you are having and back into the romantic stage of the relationship like it should be. It can be the big bad wolf in the relationship so you want to make sure you’re well equipped.

1. Layoffs, unemployment, and pink slips.

These are all the number one issues that cause problems in a relationship. Not only will they affect the relationship, but they also affect self-esteem, emotions, and confidence. If this ever happens you should sit down and budget effectively by changing your lifestyle if necessary.

2. Children.

When children are involved in a relationship their costs can become increasingly high. Having the right type of budget and make sure that they are taught how to make their own money once old enough can help the couple better handle this hardship.

3. Birthdays, special occasions and Anniversaries.

Yes, they are important but you both should know the limit on how much to spend. Make sure to be reasonable, and agree on an amount. What you can afford and not a lot over. If you think $200 is reasonable, but they think $100 is, then you can meet halfway at $150 and everyone can be happy while being able to make it a night you both will not forget since you’re not arguing over how much you ended up spending.

4. Family holidays, weekend getaways, and vacations.

You want to agree on where to go, how much to budget, and be realistic throughout the entire process. You do not want to spend too much if you cannot afford it. It should be nice, but not over the top. Of course, if the time comes where you can go over the top, then make sure to budget well and plan everything ahead of time and you’ll be good to go.

5. Salary increases, financial windfalls and promotions.

You want to know what to do with this extra money, and arguing about it is not going to solve anything. You should think clearly and put the future in mind when it comes to when and where the money should go. Perhaps you should save the extra for a rainy day, or pay off some of the bills you’re behind on? If you’re not behind on any of them, then maybe pay some of them in advance? There are always solutions.

30 Best Speed Dating Questions to Ask

Speed dating is one of the best ways to meet a lot of people rather quickly, and have the choice of which ones you want to continue seeing. First impressions mean everything for this type of dating. It is a normal way to date people without having to go through a lot of awkward situations on a normal date, and not to mention you save a lot of time in the process. You usually get around five to ten minutes with each person. It is during this time that you need to make a connection. The questions that you ask the other person are very important since you’re on a limited time schedule to find out more about them. You have to be ready and on top of things, so compile a list of these questions to bring with you when you go speed dating and miss nothing.

  1. What do you do for work? This is a great intro question to ask, and it reveals the professional status of a person but it also tells you a bit about their personality and what they have accomplished.
  2. What is one thing about yourself that you would like me to know? This gives you a better idea of who they are, and what they care to share.
  3. When was your last relationship and how long did it last for? This opens communication and lets you know more about their relationships and how they handle them.
  4. What are you looking for in a relationship, any in particular value that is most important to you while in one? This is just to see if you have the same relationship values.
  5. Do you want or have any children. This is important if you have them, want them, or if you do not like them.
  6. Do you want to get married eventually or have you already been married? This allows you to know what they want or are looking for in a relationship.
  7. Is religion something that is important to you? Depending on both values; you might or might not be compatible.
  8. What is something you’re most proud about? This reveals a lot about a person and their personality. It allows you to see what they value in life.
  9. What do you do for fun? This will make it not so drab with the rest of the questions, and it is a common one asked. See if your interests match.
  10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Find out if they are romantic or not. This is definitely a good one.
  11. Do you like or have pets? This is important since you might like animals, and they might not or vice versa.
  12. What is your most treasured possession and why? This allows you to know what they are sentimental about and what they care about in their life.
  13. What is the last book you read or movie you watched? This is definitely a conversation starter.
  14. If you had six months to live, what would you do? This is something that will allow you to see further into their personality.
  15. What is your favorite month out of the year and why? This gives you an idea of what season and temperature they enjoy the most.
  16. What is the one job in the world that you would love to do? This gives you an idea of who they are, and what they like.
  17. What type of music do you like and who is your favorite? This is just to give you an idea if you’re going to be fighting over the music choice all the time.
  18. Where do you see yourself in five years from now? This is something that you want to know, do they have goals for themselves? Do they want something out of life?
  19. Is the cup half empty or half full to you? This allows you to know if they view the world in a negative or positive way.
  20. Who was your childhood hero? This gives you not only information about their past, but more into their personality as well.
  21. If you won a million dollars, what would you do with it? This is a great ice breaker and something that you can laugh about.
  22. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? This is another amusing question that is just for laughs.
  23. Are you a morning or night person? You want to make sure you will spend common time together.
  24. If you had friends coming over, what would you cook for them? This allows you to know if they do cook and their tastes on food.
  25. If you could travel back through time, what mistake in your life would you correct and why? This gives you a deeper conversation while getting know more about the person.
  26. Is sexual compatibility an important factor to you? This is something you want to make sure you agree on.
  27. What makes you laugh and cry? This throws a light on their personality and what they enjoy or hate.
  28. What adjective would a close friend use to describe you? This gives you an idea of who they are.
  29. Who was the first crush you have ever had? This will allow them to look back on sentiments while giving you great details on how romantic they are.
  30. Who’s shoes would you step in for a day and why? This says a lot about their taste and who they want to be.

How to Start a New Relationship After Divorce

Now that the divorce papers are signed and you’re finally free, you’re likely considering your next move. Divorces aren’t easy, and sometimes, they can be downright messy. Yet, ending a marriage can provide a fresh start and completely change your outlook on life.

Some people decide to remain single after a divorce, whereas others can’t wait to jump back into the dating scene. There’s nothing wrong with establishing a new relationship after divorce — but make sure that you’re ready.

1. Wait Until You’re Ready

Friends and family might encourage you to hit the dating scene again, and they might offer to set you up on a blind date. While they mean well, it’s important that you wait until you’re ready. If you ended a long-term relationship or dealt with an ugly divorce, dating and starting a new relationship might be the last thing on your mind. Don’t let anyone force you into a new relationship. Take time to heal and regroup. Besides, you don’t need a relationship to be happy.

2. Evaluate Your Mistakes

It’s easy and convenient to blame a divorce on another person. However, we all have bad habits and annoying traits. And whereas the other person may have greatly contributed to the relationship breakdown, some of your actions might have contributed to the divorce as well. You need to take an honest look at yourself and determine what you could have done differently. The sooner you acknowledge your mistakes in the relationship, the sooner you can move on. Thinking that you’re perfect and innocent can affect future relationships because you’re likely to bring these annoying traits into your next relationship.

3. Be Choosey

Before hitting the dating scene after divorce, create a list of things that you want in a partner, and a list of things that you don’t want. Dating after divorce is scary. You might fear falling for someone like your ex or repeating past mistakes. However, if you know what you want from the beginning, you can avoid people who don’t meet these expectations. I’m not suggesting super high standards that are impossible to meet. You might want someone who likes to travel, eat out or try new things. On the other hand, you might want to avoid people who smoke, curse or hang out all night.

4. Network

When you’re ready to date again, ask around and get names of single people from your family or friends. You can always meet a random stranger at a bar or club. However, you don’t know anything about this person. Don’t frown at the idea of getting set up by a friend or family. Your family and friends know what you’re looking for and they can screen guys or girls on your behalf. You can avoid a bunch of duds and find Mr. or Mrs. Right quicker.

5. Listen to That Little Voice in Your Head

It’s important to keep your guard up when dating after a divorce. You might feel vulnerable and lonely after a divorce. This is normal, however, feeling this way can cause you to put on blinders. You can overlook annoying habits or undesirable traits and repeat the past. Bring a chaperone on your dates and then get this person’s opinion. Friends and family will tell you the truth and help you determine whether a person is good for you.

Getting it right the second (or third) time around is the goal. And if you follow these tips, you’ll not only improve yourself along the way, but you’ll weed out a bunch of people who don’t measure up.

5 Dating Habits to Avoid

Dating is often challenging, and sometimes, couples don’t hit it off. This is normal and to be expected. Yet, some break up can be averted by avoiding certain bad dating habits.

1. Not Giving Each Other Enough Space

Everybody needs space and being in love in no exception. Couples tend to stay close to one another in the early stages of a relationship. But as the relationship matures, it’s common for them to spend time away from each other. They might hang out with their own friends, spend time with family or spend time alone. But when one member of a relationship is super clingy and always wants to be together, problems can arise. The clingy partner might complain whenever the other makes plans, or constantly calls or texts. Too much togetherness can be a bad thing for couples. And if one member of a relationship feels smothered, he or she is likely to look for a way out.

2. Too High Standards

You shouldn’t settle for anything less than the best. For this reason, you should date someone who treats you nicely and cares about your feelings. But on the other, it’s important to be realistic in your expectations. Your boyfriend or girlfriend has a life and you can’t expect this person to drop everything on a whim or give into your every request. Moreover, you shouldn’t ask too much of the person. For example, it’s unrealistic for a girl to require her boyfriend to take her to fancy, expensive restaurants if he doesn’t have the cash flow. Additionally, a guy shouldn’t expect his girlfriend to look like a model 24/7.

3. Being Too Eager

Relationships are progressive, and if you seem too eager, this can cause your guy or girl to run for the hills. There’s an appropriate time for everything, such as meeting the parents, being introduced to any children and talking about marriage. Divulging too much information too soon or addressing heavy topics during the very early stages of the relationship can scare the other person. Calm down and get to know each other first. And if you bring up a heavy topic, pay attention to his or her body language and facial expressions. If the other person feels uncomfortable with the topic, it’s probably too soon and you should change the subject.

4. Ignoring Red Flags

Many people fall in love with and marry the wrong person because they ignored red flags. Everyone gets a feeling in their stomach or gut when something doesn’t seem right. You can try and fight this feeling, but it rarely goes away. Don’t ignore or push this feeling to the back of your mind. Explore this feeling and take a candid look at your relationship. The sooner you identify an unhealthy or unsatisfying relationship and get out, the sooner you can move on with your life.

5. Belittling

You should never make the other person feel unimportant. Belittling can include spitefully joking his or her comments, feelings or actions. You’re two different people and you’re both entitled to your own opinions and thoughts. Even if you don’t agree with each other, there’s no reason to make the other feel inferior.

Finding the right person to spend your life with isn’t easy, and sometimes, you have to date several people to get it right. But if you don’t recognize and get your annoying habits in check, you could scare off your perfect match.