Daily Archives: April 4, 2012
Can’t seem to keep a girlfriend or boyfriend and you don’t know why?
Couples call it quits for countless reasons and you’re likely to experience at least one break up before you find that perfect someone. Different personalities, different interests and different goals are good reasons for couples to go their separate ways. But if you find yourself unable to hold down a relationship for longer than five minutes, perhaps the problem isn’t different goals — maybe it’s you.
We all have insecurities – it’s a part of being human. But when your insecurities spiral out of control, this can make your significant other run for the hills. Battling major insecurity issues can result in the constant need for reassurance and attention. You might keep a tight grip on your girlfriend or boyfriend out of fear that he or she might leave you. This includes always inquiring about his whereabouts or becoming paranoid if she talks to someone of the opposite sex. This type of behavior is exhausting and can drive your significant other crazy. A person can only take but so much before they say goodbye to a relationship
There’s nothing wrong with close family ties, and you should want your significant other to get along with your family. But if boundaries aren’t respected, this can create problems in your relationship. You need to draw a line between what’s family business and what’s relationship business. It only takes a few meddling family members to kill your relationship. However, it’s your responsibility to establish boundaries and discuss non-accpetable behavior with your family. This can be difficult if meddling comes from a parent or grandparent. Ignoring the issue only makes the problem worse and meddling family members can scare off every person that you bring home.
It’s difficult to establish a long-term relationship when your personal finances aren’t in order — more so if your significant other is on top of his and her finances. You don’t need a ton of money in the bank, but at least have something tucked away for a rainy day. If you can’t keep a job and are always asking for money, moving forward in a relationship is not going to be easy. And if you have bad credit or a lot of consumer debt, perhaps now’s the time to make credit improvements. At some point every couple has the credit and money talk. Be prepared because if you’re not in a good place, this can put the brakes on your relationship.
Keeping Secrets or Just Plain Lying
A relationship without trust isn’t likely to end well. There’s no rule that says you have to divulge every waking move. But if you have some monster skeletons in your closet, it’s best to come clean early in the relationship. Secrets have a way of revealing themselves, and the longer you keep your secrets, the harder it is for your significant other to accept them.
Of course, some relationships just aren’t meant to last, and despite your best efforts, you might find yourself alone. But if you take steps to overcome a few of your obvious issues, this can put you a step closer to finding the love of your life.