Daily Archives: February 28, 2012
5 New Years Resolutions for Dating
Since everyone comes up with New Year’s resolutions, these are some ideas that you might want to put into full effect. I know, I know, we have already begun the New Year, but why not choose to re-do things a little late in the game and stick to them? Some might be more specific to my dating relationships and what I want out of dating, but you might want to see and build off of what I already wrote down.
I want to make sure I drink less, and think about my actions more. There is nothing worse than waking up to someone and you have no idea who they are. Of course, sometimes these times are not regrettable and actually nice, but honestly, they are not going to get you into a relationship. So have to stop this.
Going back to the gym, and sticking to it. Yup, that is right. I am going to work my butt off to lose my weight, look good, and feel good. If I want someone to like me, I need to like me. In order for me to like me, I have to like my body. Being fit is probably a good thing since no one wants to hang out with a slob; I don’t want to hang out with myself when I am looking bad. So back to the gym it is.
Stick to the appropriate dating age. This is something that everyone, girls and guys should stick too. You should take your age, divide it by two and then add seven. This gives you the youngest age you can date when it comes to someone. This will give you a view on what you should and shouldn’t do.
Update my music choices. This is one thing that actually gets a lot of women going. When looking over my playlist I had to think to myself that this is not as good as it can be. Not only was it outdated, but it also had a horrible order. I could take a half hour of my time and create a great play list.
Use all of my creativity. I want to make sure that I do exciting, new, out of the ordinary things for the people that I date. I do not want to burn out that flame that just started with a special someone because I’m boring and do not know how to date. I am going to take him to new places, and spice everything in the relationship up a notch. This is for the best.
The Worst Ways to Break Up with Someone
Online dating and technology make it a lot easier to hook up with people. Unfortunately, it also makes it a lot easier to break up with a partner. If you’re tempted to break it off with your beloved, though, the toughest way – in person, face-to-face, is best. That way you can air out all grievances and both parties can have complete closure. Plus, you really need to prepare yourself for an in the flesh meeting. Breaking up by other methods may cause you to break things off a bit too hastily, without thinking things through. Here are three popular, but ultimately tacky, break-up methods you should avoid.
Stop Calling, Emailing, etc.
Cutting off all contact with someone-no calls, emails or texts, seems to be the most popular way to break up with someone. Everyone has initiated a breakup this way at some point, or been at the receiving end. It’s a classic passive-aggressive, avoidance technique. Breaking up is unpleasant. So, you reason, don’t come clean and confront the person, just fall off the face of the earth. Most people, except hardcore stalker types, will gather that you don’t want to see them anymore after several unanswered calls. Yes, cutting off all contact will get him/her out of your life, but it frames you as conniving and immature. Confronting someone is hard, but just disappearing will cause more hard feelings in the end. Even someone you can’t stand anymore deserves the truth.
Texting
Texting is the quickest, easiest form of communication. Just dash off “Sorry. It’s Over” and get on with therest of your life. It’s just as cowardly as and even crueler than the “stop calling” ruse. Even a short-term relationship deserves to end via more than a few letters typed on your iPhone. This break-up tactic basically tells the person on the other end that they are/were disposable. It makes you look arrogant. If your ex doesn’t call you out on this one, karma will.
Email gives you more time to think about what to say – you can go into long-winded explanations if you want, and you can avoid the quickness of a text reply. It’s still the coward’s way out and delays the dumpee’s response, since most people don’t check emails as often as they check text messages. It gives you more time to formulate a comeback to their irate response (if they respond at all). Like the texting and no contact methods, it infers that you just want to wipe your hands of the whole mess and not have to deal with emotions of any kind. Unless you’re dumping a one-night stand, you probably have unearthed emotions that need to be aired out with your ex in person.
