How to Maintain a Long-Distance Relationship

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More people are maintaining long distance relationships than ever before, thanks to online dating, texting, cell phone pics and videos and other high-tech ways to keep in touch. But there isn’t any substitute for in-person, in the flesh interaction. A long distance relationship can turn stale after awhile without a good plan of action.  Here are some tips for making the most of a long distance love affair.

Talk honestly about your feelings and goals; be willing to compromise.

 What do you expect from each other? You need to be honest and confront major issues like monogamy and the possibility of one partner moving to the other person’s  city. Some situations, like a summer internship, are short-term, and won’t require a lot of patience to endure. If one person has a great job in San Francisco and the other has a great job in Seattle, eventually one or both partners will have to make a compromise.  Changing jobs or work hours to visit the other more often is a must in many cases. Long-distance relationships can easily last months or even a few years, but only unique and determined individuals can make it work longer than that

Call or Email Daily.

 Send an email, text message or other note every day without fail.  Some days you’ll have the time and desire to make a two-hour long phone call or video Skype for awhile; other days you may be busy at work and only have the time for a quick text message or Facebook post. Regardless, steady contact is necessary in a long distance relationship.  It’s hard to gauge how someone feels, or even if they’re thinking of you at all, when they can’t see you in person, in the flesh. Steady contact via   technology can pick up some of the slack.  If it’s the end of the day and you haven’t heard from your love or vice versa, that’s a danger signal. If you truly love and respect your partner, your theme should be “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”, not “Out of sight, out of mind.”

Hop on a plane regularly.

 Visit each other often. Of course, economics, work schedules and  the distance between you may dictate how often this can actually happen. If you’re in Chicago and your partner is in Milwaukee, a trip every weekend is do-able. If  you’re in Prague and she’s in New York,  you’ll have to intersperse in-person trips with extra video Skype sessions.

Be an individual.

Don’t overcompensate for the fact that you don’t live in the same city as your partner. In other words, don’t send too many texts or call too much. Live your own life and develop new interests so you’ll have plenty to talk about when you Skype.

Take Advantage of Technology

Play new virtual online video games with your sweetheart to recreate an actual date with Avatar.  Instead of merely talking on Skype, give each other tours of your surroundings or watch a favorite TV show together. Use Smart Phone apps that feature messaging and photo sharing just for couples. Tweet each other a lot and sneak in a Facebook chat  to discuss the latest news stories.

Plan for the future.

Long-distance relationships will stand the test of time if we know our partner is thinking of the future.  Discuss vacations, moving in together, marriage, having kids, or whatever you both desire for the future. Having something you both can plan and look forward to will strengthen your relationship.

Surprise your partner.

 Send an unexpected gift, singing telegram or handwritten love letter. Your partner will also appreciate a sexy photo or video at the end of a long day. (Just make sure it isn’t intercepted by a third party!)

 Consider the Positive Aspects of a Long Distance Relationship

And look at the bright side of a long distance affair. You won’t have to argue with your Significant Other about misplaced toothbrushes or dirty laundry piled up on the sofa! You’ll avoid the little things that drive most couples crazy – that is, until you move in together!

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